perimenopause hell

Your post made me cry! I am going through all of these things as well. I have no women in my life, and my gyno is NOT a good dr. I thought I was losing it! Thanks for your post! I appreciate it so much! I'm not crazy after all!

Last night was a bad night for me...I woke up with a headache and sweating. I felt like my head was exploding. I was worried it was my blood pressure but the machine confirmed that was ok. Doctors cant find out whats wrong. I've been to the ER 3x because of heart palpitations and chest pain. EKG, CT, Stress test all come back normal.

I figured peri since I'm 41. I couldn't go back to sleep and ended up finding relief on the cold tile floor.

I was hard not to let anxiety take over, I just kept saying..."this will pass"

Linda I completely understand your situation. I'm 41 and have the same issues as you. It's been my experience that most doctors nowadays are incompetent.

Hi Linda,

I am new to this site also, just now in fact.

I am 45 and have been diagnosed with Piri Menopause, what ever that means?

 I have been a total mess emotionally physically mentally etc. I'm experiencing multiple symptoms ranging from heart palpitations to successions of hot flashes, absent mindedness and  varied mood fluctuations and more. 

I insist on not relenting to medication because I believe the body has a higher form of intelligence of it's own.

I practice yoga regularly and consistently  for almost 19 years. Ive always maintained a fairly healthy diet. I practice differing forms of meditation and breathing work. 

I'm surprised that I'm here already, people tell me I'm too young, and I feel it! 

Why are we not made aware of the effects of this life altering stage.

My relationships are seemingly crumbling! 

I feel as though I'm losing my grip!

Hi LindaJane,

You are not alone! 

I had/have the same skin burning issue along with anxiety.  The skin burning turned out to be food allergy related. I don't get hives, I just feel like I am on fire from the inside out and my anxiety mushrooms out of control. 

I went through a very similar journey to yours. I made an appointment with anyone who would see me because the burning was so bad--dermatologist, GI doctors, gynecologist....Multiple doctors who treated me like a loon and offered only anti-depressants.  Finally my GP, in desperation, ordered food allergy testing.  In her words "your guts and your skin are in constant conversation." I resisted at first because I was 47 and never had a food allergy in my life. (Wasn't that for fancy kids with over-protective parents?) 

At 47 my tests came back off the chart for eggs, bananas, gluten, casein (the protein in milk)... 

Once I eliminated those, the skin burning got under control and it rarely bothers me now unless I am careless. (That means going off my Paleo diet.)

But before diagnosis my health anxiety was so bad I had to talk myself out of suicide.  I wanted to end my life on my own terms rather than die from the mystery ailment no one cared enough to try and find. I was just fortunate that the externals of my life, a good paying job, a calm home, friends who loved me, were there so I could recite the list of what was right in my life like a mantra.

This is just my perimenopause story.....food allergies are more common now in women as adults. And there is good research on histamine's link to estrogen.  You can google the terms and see what comes up.

We are here for you! 

Hi ladies, 

?I am sorry for taking so long to respond.  It has been a horrible few months.  I am so sorry for what you're both going through.  I can't believe perimenopause is this bad.  I had talked myself out of it being that because it just seems too severe.  But I have come full circle.   Thanks you for the advice

Hello Linda. As far as I know I'm going through the perimenopause as well. I bought myself a book about it where you can meditate and use oils and creams. I am a free lance writer and like books and sharing books. I read books by Christiana Northrup about women's issues and Lara Owen's books about menstruation and menopause. 

Great. The books are good and I was writing to a pen pal about them. Fortunately I don't have any responsibilities while going through the menopause and I also eat a healthy diet. I have always had anxiety of some kind. I used to get eczema and stomach pains because of anxiety. It get's difficult to tell what's what. I've menstruated from the age of 12 and I'm in my late forties now. I've never been on the pill but I was on anti depressants and tranquilizers in my 30s. 

I am so glad I found this forum. I also feel like I am on the brink of death - unexplained nausea, lightheadedness, chest pains, awful heart palpitations and pounding, hot flashes, dizziness, brain fog, restless sleeping, and now anxiety and depression over feeling awful - I've always been a happy, sociable person but Im uncomfortable leaving the house for extended periods of time out of fear I'll be stuck somewhere feeling faint and sick. I've had a cardiac workup, blood tests and gastro tests (all normal, of course!) I also went back on the pill (Nortrel 1/35) in hopes it would balance my hormones, but i still have the symptoms. I'm afraid to go off it for fear I'll feel even worse. I e also tried a few different estro creams but they didn't seem to help, either. Either I really have an undiagnosed health issue ory hormones are really screwed up! This SUCKS! 😭

Fight on, brave ladies!

I am going through SO MANY symptoms due to perimenopause.  They also come and go.  I’ve had panic attacks, anxiety (especially health anxiety), hot flashes, cold flashes, tremors, vibrating body, dry eyes, nose, mouth, and gums, lost a ton of weight, then gained a ton back, insomnia, stomach tickles (like when you go over a hill too fast in a car), crying, anger, depression, hypothyroid, burning and prickly skin, numbness, extremeties falling asleep too easily, and waking up between 4 and 5 am EVERY MORNING.   I’ve also had periodic weak legs, arms, and body, low level nausea, and auditory hallucinations.  It’s ridiculous.  I’m on month 10 of this and STILL cannot believe it’s all hormones, but I’ve had a ton of tests and nothing wrong EXCEPT hormone fluctuations.