Perimenopause or Anxiety or ???

Good afternoon ladies

I hope everyone is ok, i got the test on ebay 5 pack for £3.75 Thank you for all your replys can i ask does anyone have the feeling that they want everything to end when they get tearful. or do you think this cound be something else..

Hi Tammy,

I guess those feelings are just part of the peri and yes truly want it all to end so that I can get my life back to how it was prior to last Nov 12. Sadly none of us know how long this will go on for, as we have heard from others who have experienced this for 8 years or so.

For me the biggest problem is the anxiety and the worry when things feel different inside and when othersymptoms start happening. I find most of the time though that when my cycles are semi normal I feel like the old me but semi dread when it could all start to go down hill again.

I had never experienced such worries prior to 2012 so I guess I have found it hard to understand these changes so that I could just learn to deal with things and just accept it.

Finding this forum has really helped me in trying to stay positive and believe that there isn't anything sinistergoing on. Massive hugs to you all. xxxx

Hi Snatchpiece

Thank you for your reply i've only had that thourght twice last month but it scare me, i have most of my symptoms everyday but they seem to get wrost every 15 to 17 days apart. seem to have no motivation to get on and do things. i have been feeling like this for about 3/4 years. ive started taking well woman multi vitaman in the hope that it will make me feel more like my old self. I've stopped doing a lot of things that i use to do. Don't go out any more. and when i do i just worry the whole time. and make myself feel really ill. i wish there was something they can give us to make us feel normal again.

sending hugs to everyone xx

Hi

great, glad you got some tests Tammy...

re: tearfulness, I am in year 8 of peri, and this last few days I have felt very tearful, and I was tears at the dinner table on Sunday, its awful, no one upset me, I was just talking and then was in tears, I find every month when i miss my period, as well as having all the symptoms still, i feel really sensitive, infact so much so, I just want to stay indoors and not see anyone at all, I avoid anything that may upset me, as I cannot deal with it, I was always a very strong person, and this peri has made me half the woman I use to be, I get so anxious about silly things, I take things to heart all the time, I feel unattractive, old and useless, I think to myself how does my partner want to be with me, i am horrible ... truly I also go through this, your not alone sweetie.. hugs Jay xx

HI

Finger cross the test come quickly

I had meet lovely man last year very caring and understanding but i pushed him away, really gutted about it

as he was trying to be supported i just got really anxious when ever i was with him and made myself feel ill. its really hard as we feel unattractive and old but no one else see us in that way if that make any sence. your partner loves you to bit and to him you are beauiful. i'm now thinking i wont meet anyone as good as the one i had and if i do will i push him away to.

Thank you for all your support and keep your chin up hunni it will come to an end and your have your old life back keep smiling xx

Thank you to everyone xx

Hi Jay,

Have your symptoms got easier over these past 8 years or have they got worst?

I bought some Menapol Plus from Simply supplements recently and had been taking them for about 2weeks and I did start to feel a little more at ease.

I am still having my periods but last year missed 3 during that time but once I started using the serenity cream from Wellsprings my periods have been more regular (sometimes have had shorter cycles) but still had one.

I am hoping that it will get easier once we go into the full Menopause (no periods for 12 months) but I amnot so sure.. Like the rest of us I was a confident person and was always stronger than others and always so positive but some months I cant help but fear the worst when I don't feel myself and sit and worry myself

silly.

I love holidays abroad but have been a little worried about planning one in fear that I might have an episode of the feeling of not wanting to go out (last year when I had one I wouldnt go out for two weeks), and lost my appetite and felt sick and just extremely low during this time until my period arrived.

Why do Men not have to go through such changes, even though my hubby is really supportive I just feel sometimes that he cant understand me having these bad times. I even had a friend of mine last year saying to me that she wish she could have a melt down like me, and another friend said if I keep saying that there was something wrong with me, that people wouldn't believe when there actually was something wrong. AGAIN NO SYMPATHY THERE THEN.

The first friend is now suffering a little and I really have to stop myself from saying the same thing back to her but I don't want to go down to her level. The second friend had no symptoms and just flew through it.

Anyway hope you soon start to feel like your old self again and massive hugs to you. xxx

Hi Snatchpiece and Tammy

Tammy, dont push people away, especially an understanding man that you liked 😒 I live in Spain and my partner of 8 years works away so I see him twice a month at weekends if that... and he doesnt understand what i am going through as I do not talk about it.. dont want to drive him away... i just cry hahahaha

ummm now let me think snatchpiece, I think after 8 years of this it seems worse to me, Its just too long to suffer and still suffering.. ( my mum started peri at age 42 and was done and dusted at age 44 ) how lucky was that...

I was telling lovely anxiousface about this, my last period was 7 months ago, Aug 13, only had two in 2013 and three in 2012... i did use that natural progesterone cream myself from Biovea website but it made my breasts sooooo tender and it did make my periods come again, this was 3 years ago though, I developed a painful breast cyst using it and stopped using it and after a few weeks the cyst went...

i have experienced more anxiety this last year and feelings of doom, lifelessness and uninterested in everything, but then i took iron tabs ( i was rock bottom about 6 weeks ago ) anxiousface was so supportive 😃

anyway I started taking iron tabs and my energy just boosted amazingly ... and still is pretty good now, my blood tests didnt say i needed iron but i thought i would take abit as my mum needed it when she was younger..

here in spain the iron tabs are 105mg so i split mine so take 52.5mg daily in morning on waking and it has made me feel so much better, but the last few days i am having the usual monthly period symptoms, no period, infact tonight i am freezing and cold hands again, i have had a few hot flushes last few days, headaches and tonight my tummy aches so its PMT but no period, hence the tearfulness ... it passes then i feel okay again for 2 or 3 weeks... all crazy stuff...

I dont think anyone understands it, unless they are going through it or been through it .. 😢 thats why this website is so lovely... girl power and support ....

also early peri I felt urge to wee alot that has passed now, i have the drippy nose now, and mixed bowel movement so varied its weird... i get the golf ball throat when anxious sometimes, and feel my heart beating in my chest sometimes, and cant think straight, forget what day it is even... I dont take HRT but take Estroven Max, Maca, Natecal ( a must) and Vit B1 that one also keeps mozzys bites at bay as well as being good for you 😀 ..

if I actually get a period on the odd occasion, my lord, I feel terribly sick, migraine for 3 or 4 days solid, thats got so much worse that has....

hope this helps... jay xx

Tammy i also get anxious around my husband at times!!He has been so amazing thru this but sometimes i wonder how he does it...i know theres days i wish i could run away from how i feel so how he doesnt run the other way is beyond me....i just thank god he hasnt...goin back to dr again today and hope i get some answers...i get so foggy when i drive that its hard for me to go places without the fear of me getting in an accident..hate this and wish i could get some answers...hugs to all

Laurie

i get like that, fear the worst if I have to go out, so always want someone with me, I also am obsessive compulsive lately, like checking everything all the time, even the car.... make sure everything looks okay...

any one else feel OCD during Peri ... jay x

Hi Janet/everyone found this discussion by accident. I had hysterectomy when I was 45 was put on HRT straight away and felt great all my pain/periods/flooding had gone and the first HRT suited me. I had no other medical problems until 2007 when I got Angina diagnosed following this I had to have three stents and then 2009 had a Heart Bypass age 62 and had to come off HRT (not gradually right that day!) I didn't notice much for a couple of months and then got a funny flush as if I had a sponge on the inside and someone had squeezed it! also I had prickles all over my body like someone was sticking fine pins in me made me very agitated for a short time. I also have suffered bad headaches for years one minute told migraine/sinus next time blood pressure! I don't go to GP at all for the headaches as they seemed to ease off after heart surgery. I have them back again I can go to bed with a very "thick" head and not get to sleep or be asleep and be woken up at about 4am with bad head I cant lie there and go off again I have to get up have a drink take paracetemol (cant take certain meds with heart medications) Some mornings I wake and feel like I haven't been to sleep I am so drained and motiveless other times I will have slept but still wake not wanting to do anything and then I come round after couple of hours. Sometimes I can be in the house on my own and feel myself getting irritable/fed up and angry but I don't know at what. Is this the menopause-- how long does this last for ---- do people go to GP with these symptoms. What can they do for hormone imbalance as I read in comments above. If I went to GP I wouldn't know what to say, I have been through quite a bit since 2007 as I also had a haemorrhage at the back of my eye and lost sight so am registered sight impaired and in December 2013 had a knee replacement which I am recovering from. Like you say its good to read others go through the same and you feel its ok but it has to be better than this.

hi all thank god i have found this!!! since 2012 I have been suffering anxiety with panic attacks, I shake uncontrollable , nauseas from the moment I get up to 10 am and all seem to be fine from then, sweat top lip, constant worry, sweat palms, negative thinking, anxious about leaving home to doing simple things like shopping which i use to love, feeling like my balance is just not there anymore, foggy and light headed, loss of libido, tired and worn out, the list can go on. I have a mirena in for the past 9 years as I can not have anymore child as complications from my first pregnancy. So I have not had a period for 9 years which is fine, but as of the last 5 months at overlating I have had hell as period pain, change of bowel movements, hot sweats, the anxiety comes back any where from 1 - 3 days is the worst then it has hit every 3 weeks so I do get a grace period of little symptoms , I am going through the process of testing with my doc at the moment. I said to her was i going through preimenopause as she said I wont rule it out but your a bit young. Im 38 and this started 2 years ago with being diagnoised with anxiety. But now reading your stories im certain that this is what im going through, oh did I mention the tears I just cry for no reason, it feels like im going mad!!! let us hang in there and be there for one another! It is nice to have something like this. hugs***

margaret...

if I were you I would go to your GP ... you say you wouldnt know what to say...

maybe write down what you want to ask and tell the doctor about, dont suffer they may be something they can give you to make you feel better.... and you can ask about the smear question you mentioned and check that too... good luck... Margaret... Jay xx

Hi Jayneejay Thanks for your comment I will eventually go to GP but I have had a lot of things go wrong in past three years feel like I am looking for things to go to GP for! but I know I am feeling the way I feel and having read all this about others I think maybe that the GP is where I should go I didn't know anything about "testing hormone levels" I was brought up to think it was menopause and you got on with it although I have had HRT buthad to come off it medically.I will ask about the smear testing as well although at my age I feel a bit stupid as if I should know about these things. I didn't think I needed to go now as I went regularly before. I have had total hysterectomy and because of a medical condition my husband has we have had no sexual relationship for 4 years. Reading everything now about cervical cancer etc I think I should go even though I have no symptoms of anything.

Hi Margaret..

I think if I was you I would go GP... and also mention loss of Libido etc... they may just have something to help you...

re: testing Hormone Levels ... us Peri menopause ladies ... can have blood tests and the hormone one is the FSH blood test ... I do not know about post total hysterectomy .. as never had a hysterectomy...

maybe there is something GP can give you to increase Libido etc... think I would make an appt if I was you and write it all down and see a good GP... I am sure you will feel better doing so, its making that initial step and doing it, so go on, make an appointment .. maybe the best thing you did.. 😃 Jay x

Anxious face. Hi had my follow up today. B12 severely low was given a shot in office as well as d was 12 so on mega dose of vitamin d for 2 weeks and then 5,000/day for 3 months and will check again. Thyroid showing hyperactive as tsh low 0.28 so will be treating. Estrogen normal but progesterone and testosterone extremely low so that explains symptoms of estrogen dominance. Starting progesterone capsules 200mg two weeks a month. Here's so hoping I start feeling better soon. Will keep you posted. Let me know how your appt goes