PMR - newly diagnosed and struggling with my young family

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Hi, i was diagnosed a few weeks ago and have been on 15 mg of pred for 21 days now. The pain was excrutiating and got better to begin with but I now have started getting worse pain gradually coming back. My joints are burning hot and im very sore. I have 3 kids, 3,9,11 that keep me very busy and to be honest I struggle to do the basics at times. Mornings are the hardest as Im in pain and have restricted movement but the meds seem to kick in after lunch but I am then struggling to stay awake, often laying on the floor snoozing while my toddler watches tv, before having to pickup the older kids from school and do the ferrying to the sport activities. Are there things I could be doing to help me get through the day a little easier. Im not sleeping well at all and rarely sleep longer then 2 hrs which doesnt help my mood. I dont want to be a grumpy mum but its tough and I dont want my family to suffer as well. I am considering cutting out sugar all together and maybe even trying the paleo diet, anything that may help get me through. Im a the waiting list to see a rhuemy but that will take a while. Any suggestions on issues such as managing sleep, pain and how to better function would be greatly appreciated. 

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    Ally, you may be quite young to be diagnosed with PMR--it is usually an illness suffered by people over 50. Did your doctor mention this? I don't know how you manage dealing with the kids and the PMR also.

    You need to be tested, I would think, for rheumatoid arthritis and maybe similar ailments. 

    And your lack of sleep is making everything worse, I expect. Maybe temporarily you can get an FM radio to put on your night table and turn on at night to combat the sleeplessness. It sounds crazy, but somehow it does help me sleep to give a listen,  when I'm tossing and turning. So does turning the ceiling fan on low (if you have one)--

    If you have to wait a good deal longer to get an appointment with a rheumy, could your primary physician take charge in the meantime? Just a thought--

    I keep thinking you are way too young to have PMR, a disease of those over 50. But I'm no expert, certainly.

    Everybody on this site I know is wishing the best for you and wanting to help in whatever way we can. Thanks for contacting the site--

    Best, Barbara

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      From what I have seen and read over the last 6 years I am convinced there are far more younger patients out there - labelled with fibromyalgia, "your age", "all in your mind" and depression. I was also barely 50 when mine really manifested, it had been there much longer at a very low level but had had those labels thrown at me. The youngest documented case that fits the criteria was 24 years old - and male.

      The main reason for starting with a 15-20mg pred dose is that PMR is alone in responding so dramatically to this moderate dose - using higher doses may mask the other illnesses, you are absolutely right. 

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      logically "its rare therefore you don't have it" is a nonsensical statement. And I'm unlikely to ever believe a statement "it doesn't happen under 50". Someone must have it. And it might as well be "you". rolleyes

      Sorry.

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      yeah, I rest my case,

      congratulations - someone special - a statistical anomaly. They do exist!

      Don't be too disheartened, nothing really happens. We don't wake up on our 50th birthday and are magically different.

      But happy birthday anyway. biggrin

      On a serious note. I refuse to let PMR take away my sense of humour.

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      You are so right , if humour goes well .....

      and thank you for my pre birthday wishes smile

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      Absolutely Julian - and if you only knew how often I have shouted just that at my computer as yet another doctor insists it "can't be because..."

      I have, however, two doctors on my list who are equally as sceptical of this attitude as we are...

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    Ally,  again, I can't imagine how you cope with he symptoms of PMR and care for your family.  

    I'v there are no real food recommendations regarding PMR however it's always good to cut back on sugar.  Veggies , fruits, grains are usually the best and of course everything in moderation.  

      All the best.  

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    Well, with three young kids AND PMR, you win the prize!
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      Woke up today extremely sore and unable to move much.... Kids taking advantage and getting into the banana bread which is like putting rocket fuel in a car....i should say 3 cars, luckily hubby will be home soon for day and he can deal with with their madness, im not moving and have taken 20 mg of pred today instead of 15mg. Hanging out for it to kick in...

      yep i can hear kids bouncing of ceiling and im letting them ...still not moving it hurts too much.

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    Hi Ally, this is my first time on this forum. I can see you are trying your best and hope this forum can be of help to you.  I'm 72 and was diagnosed with PMR over 1.5 years ago and have been on Pred since then. I've reduced it to 9mg which I've been on for 6 weeks and have tried getting below this 3 or 4 times before but can't as my symptoms get worse. I think I have to experiment increasing my does slowly again until I get relief as the longer I stay at 9 mg the worse my symptoms become!  I had hoped to get my dose way down by now but seem stuck here.  I read one person's comment here that one can take 4 or 5 years to get it down below 5 mg.  Three friends of mine got off their Pred. within a year but each case is unique.  My symtoms of stiffness came on suddenly 2 years ago, I was quite in disbelief because I was fine up to then. My rheumatologist keeps asking me if I'm ready to try Methotrexate because she feels the Pred. isn't working.  I had spoken to a second rheumatologist and he had very mixed feeling about Methotrexate.  The latter is bad for the liver while pred is bad for the bones!  Quite a quandry!  Lately my symptoms are more of strain in the neck and shoulders and especially around the throat, seems the symptoms keep moving around.  I'd welcome other members of this discussions comments on my neck symtoms and thoughts on Methotrexate.  Many thanks.  Leonard
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      I never managed to get below 9mg for over 3 years without a flare and it didn't matter what I tried. Then I had a major flare and started again at 15mg but this time I used the reduction scheme you will find in the replies part of this thread on this site:

      https://patient.info/forums/discuss/pmr-gca-website-addresses-and-resources-35316

      I am at 4mg for the first time in 5 years, 3.5mg just works, 3mg doesn't.

      There is another similar scheme, not quite as slow. Both or something similar have been used by a lot of patients on the 3 forums in the UK and they have all managed to get lower than ever before and with very few problems. 

      I would have a go with this before considering MTX. There is no real evidence it works in PMR - it HAS helped some patients and they get worse again without it. But if it isn't PMR they have but late onset RA which can be almost identical it would.

      I, by the way, have had PMR for 10 years, 5 of them on pred, for well over 3 years at above 10mg. My bone density is unchanged - only about half of patients on pred develop osteoporosis and you can't say it is the pred unless you had a dexascan done at the outset.

      As well as the reduction scheme I have pointed you to, I'd also suggest finding a Bowen therapist and having a few sessions. It helped me with neck and shoulder/back pain. You will know very quickly if it will help so it isn't an open-ended keep paying for the rest of your life like some chiropractic seems to be. If Bowen doesn't help in 3 sessions it probably never will. Sometimes patients crawl into a session and walk out an hour later!

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      Hi leonard,

         Can't really tell you about Methotrexate but understand the quandry....  I think I'd want to protect my liver but who knows which is best and how long you might have to take it. 

        I've also experienced some discomfort, I'll call it, around my neck, shoulders... like across the front of my chest...  when the dose of Pred kicks in this goes.... sometimes.  lately I've been have mild headaches and of course the ever present fatigue. 

       I like to hear about your friends getting better after a year.  I'll be on this "stuff" a year in August! 

      Take care....

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      Hi Eileen, I assume your email was directed to me at least it sure sounded like it.  I am very appreciative of your remarks.  One tends to get isolated and not hear other's experiences, certainly with males which I am, whereas it seems women chat more openly about these things.  I like your suggestions and will look into them.  As to bone density I had one done after about a year on pred and it showed I was borderline for osteo but then again I don't know what my reading was just prior to starting it!  It's such a tough decision here whether to go on Methotexate or not; seems I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place!  If you have any further thoughts here I'd welcome them.  Thanks.  Leonard
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      Hi Judy, thanks a lot for your reply to my post. As far as my friends getting better, each case is unique other than we were all on Pred.  One friend was initially hospitalized for 3 weeks from his pain and put on huge doses of Pred but at the end of the year he was off it!  I hope it lasts.  The other, a male, didn't discuss it with me so I heard indirectly through my wife who is friends with the couple.  I've since had a few words with him and he acknowledge sudden stiffness coming on and his lifestyle becoming greatly compromised but fortunately he gotten it down after 6 months or so to 2.5 mg twice a week and appears will be off pred shortly.  I can't believe that this is my 4th time or more trying to get below 9mg and having to go back to somewhere between 12-15, at least that seems to settle it which is sort of a positive.  Like how does one get off this stuff!!!
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      Yes - I did click on reply to your personal post.

      I personally wouldn't use MTX - the local rheumy here is adamant it has no real place in PMR and although I'm not under him now he'd have to be involved as it only comes from specialists and I know he wouldn't ask me to take it - problem solved.

      Yes pred can make osteoporosis worse but there are also medications that will sort that out too if it gets too bad. But lowered bone density doesn't automatically mean broken bones - and paying attention to all the other risk factors does reduce the risk greatly.

      But as I say - I don't see what the rheumy means by "it isn't working". You need the amount of pred you need for YOU and YOUR disease process. It isn't a case of using pred to "get rid of PMR" and cure it. PMR is the name we give to the symptoms of an underlying autoimmune disorder which is ongoing. The pred does nothing for this autoimmune disorder - it manages the symptoms to allow a decent quality of life until the autoimmune bit goes into remission and stops attacking your body and causing damage. That might be 6 months, 2 years, 5 years or, in my case, 10 years and counting. It's a "how long is a piece of string" question. The cause is ongoing - just like in Type 1 diabetes - you don't give a patient insulin for a few years and then say, the diabetes should have gone away because you have been in the medicine...

      After 18months to be at 9mg is pretty normal. Follow the link I gave you and then look at the "Bristol paper" - 6 weeks 15mg, 6 weeks 12.5mg and A YEAR of 10mg before reducing to 9mg. These are top people giving this advice and that is 16 months to 9mg even without any hitches - and you have been down and up and down and up. Getting into a yo-yo situation with your dose makes it increasingly difficult to reduce. 

      I'd take your other rheumy's opinion and try the "Dead slow and nearly stop" reduction first. But even then - it may just be the autoimmune activity is still needing 9mg-worth of antiinflammatory action. Keep MTX as a last resort - there are a lot of people who were being threatened with a drug for which there is NO concrete evidence in PMR who have reduced without it. Going very slowly has far fewer potential side-effects than MTX.

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      Hi Eileen, thanks again.  Other than the rheumatogist's input I haven't heard many thoughts on how to deal with this.  Your views are most enlightening and refreshing to hear and give some new perspective on this thing.  I guess my thinking was wrong about how long it takes to get off pred, it appears each case is different.  I have a few friends who were on it less than a year so I guess I thought that's how long it would take me as well!  Let me peruse your comments more.  I had trouble opening that link you sent.  Can you give some more info on how to open it?
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      Just click on it - it will take you to another post on this site.

      Or scroll to the top of this page where you will see

      Home >  ..... > Polymyalgia rheumatica and giant cell arteritis

      if you click on that it will take you to the front page of this forum (so to speak) and there is a list of all the discussions - the one you want is the fourth down

      PMR-GCA website addresses and resources

      The link works for me so I can't say any more than that I'm afraid - let your cursor hover over the link (it should be in red) until the hand appears and then single click - the thread will open in another tab.

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