Tearing during sex.

Hi, I had the exact same problem so my gynaecologist did an operation on me. She removed the area that kept tearing and pulled skin from inside the vagina out and stitched it over the removed skin! It was an extremely painful recovery and 6 weeks later I tried having sex again. I have the exact same problem, it didn't fix anything! I'm so so depressed over this as my partner and I never have sex anymore and I feel so guilty. Iv tried dialators which didn't help either! I'm at my wits end!

If it helps anyone, I would suggest using coconut oil at lube. I know it sounds dumb, but it helps a bit more, is natural and helps heal the area a bit faster.

I have had gluten tests done and I'm fine! I actually have a allergy to wheat so I don't eat gluten anyways. I will try the coconut oil though! I'm sick of this I don't know what to do

I have the same problem in my past during first time sex ,but later on with advice change the sex position and start with very slow motion and smothly.

The prolem is solved

Girl,

I have the same issue. I have been to the doctors twice and no resolution. They gave me Betamethasone Cream (steroid) to rub down there. I did that and it seemed to help but of course I didn't rub it down there during my period because I can't wear tampons because they make me tear as well. Can I ask a weird question.. what type of body wash do you all use? They've done so many tests and nothing. I have been with my fiancé for over 5 years and it just started 4 months ago.. almost 5. It is frustrating. Has anyone else found a solution? Please let me know! I am desperado!

Hey girls, i have the exact same issue. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and this started a little less then a year ago. I started tearing right below my vagina opening. I went to my gyno millions of times, no help. Ive been to a dermatologist, no help and now they said about trying another type of specialist. I have no idea why this iz happening. I tried going slower during sex, different lubes, coconut oil, and much more. It even hurts/tears during foreplay. PLEASE let me know if anyone finds something out that works!

I have been having this same problem for about 6 years, 2 years after beginning to date my now husband. I had sex before that for years with no problems at all. I have been to so many doctors, specialists, urologist, dermatologists, done physical therapy, etc. Had std testing, hormone testing, been told to change my laundry detergent & soaps. I have done many, many other things but that list could go on for days. Nothing that anyone has done or suggested has helped. The only thing that has made sex tolerable was one dr prescribed me lidocaine but it still tears and hurts after the numbing has gone away. I do think there is a correlation in this condition and eating habits and being overly acidic. I say this because the only test I ever had come back with any clues to anything was a biopsy of my vulva that came back as chronic inflammation. So my only hope is that one day I can follow a stricter, healthier diet that makes my body less acidic. I have tried many, many times and failed. Having this condition has changed who I am and nearly torn my marriage a part. I feel for all of you suffering through it too and I always tell my friends who don't have issues like this to be thankful for their healthy vaginas.

THE CURE: I had the same horrible problem of getting cuts when having sex and vaginal discomfort for about a year. I visit many different gynecologist and other specialists and no one knew what it was, some suggested it was thinning of my vaginal tissue, others a chronic yeast infection, some thought it was herpes (which I was tested multiple times and even a blood test which came out negative), some mentioned that it was just a technical vaginal problem, or a auto immune system or perhaps my partner was just too large. I was prescribed an estrogen cream wich was about $250.00 dollars a tube (Thank God my insurance was able to covered) then I was prescribed a steroid cream CLobastesol I think it was called, the creams never help. The docs will say to lubricate as much as possible before sex which i did and I even try switching to multiple lube brands thinking I was probably allergic to some, but I was still getting the cuts. I was very depressed due to this problem, it was taking a toll on me emotionally eventhough my partner was always super supportive. I felt terrible and scare every time I was going to have sex, I stop having sex for multiple weeks due to this problem, it was awful loving my partner and wanting to be with him but I couldnt. One day I cry out to God and ask him to please help me, then one day my partner and I went to the dollar store and we came across a baby oil- a generic brand called Baby Oil by Personal Care. I use this as lube and bingo problem solved. I never never never got one cut again. Tip- I bought a small spray bottle and place the oil there for a more convenient use. Ladies I hope this help, I completely understand how terrible this can be. Sorry for my writing I'm ESL.

Hi guys! Same issue! I did get it fixed for a while but its back... i did unfortunately have to quit the medicine that helped because it was expencive insurance didnt help plus, i wasnt sure the doctor who gave to to me really cared. Anyway here it goes.... i was almost 100% i had lichen scrolus with all of these problems (sorry about the spelling im horrible at it) and i was freaked out because hey ive alway had a little itching, painful sex and tearing there. (Just like the listed symptoms.) However after trying different doctors one did a biopsy and it came back contact dermatitis. Cant figure out whats trigering it and my gyno couldnt figure me out so I was sent to a ton more doctors, Everyone had their own idea of whats wrong. The one that helped the most was just a dermatologist who prescribed me Biote (its like a testosterone tablet they stick under your skin for women who are going through menopause. It was 300$ for a tablet that lasted 2 months. And insurance will not cover it. It really felt like a sales gimic anf the doctor was a little pushy with it, but i didnt tear after trying it and that mixed with the clabatosol. It seriously helped. However there were scary side effects and it caused my hair to start falling out so my husband wouldnt let me keep taking it. Now im back kind of where i started. Im going down to another doctor the 28th for an allergy test though... hopefully it helps. Anyway im just glad im not alone with this i seriously feel broken and like im the only one out there struggling with this. Thanks for sharing everyone... sex is extremly hard for me...

Okay ladies, listen up. I've been dealing with this bulls**t for like 2 or 3 months now and I'm getting sick of my vagina's s**t!

Okay, now that I got that out of that he way, here is what I think is causing the problem: expired lube. I didn't even think about it until my boyfriend (of 7 wonderful years) mentioned it like, I'm not even kidding, ten minutes ago. I bought a lube that's on the natural side (I HATE KY) and I think that it may have expired. Time flies like crazy and sometimes you don't even realize how much passes before this type of s**t happens to you.

You guys are telling each other to switch lubes or stop using them altogether, which I'm sure helps in some if not many cases, but what if you just replace the lube you have with a fresher bottle? I mean, it's worth a shot. What if you switch lube brands and then THAT gives you a reaction?

That being said, I believe diet and stress are a huge part of this as well. Ever since I started eating trash a few months ago (and gaining hella weight, ugh) this problem started. Carbs, sugar, trash-grade meat, etc, eating on the go, stressing about life's lemmons.

So here's what I'm going to do and then keep you guys updated. I'm going to start taking multivitamins or powdered vitamins to start fixing the dietary issue ASAP.

Now, as for the tears, I have noticed that using aquaphor has helped immensely. Cuts healing time in half because it's formulated for horrible diaper rashes and other such things. Which brings me to believe that if it's gentle enough to put on a baby it's probably gentle enough to put on you.

That being said, do NOT put this stuff too close to your opening. Just dont. That can cause a yeast infection and a whole 'nother issue for you. Screw that.

Anyway, I understand that this may not work for everyone. That being said, he careful with what you do to your body. Do not put things anywhere if you're not sure and don't taking things orally if you're not sure.

AKA ^ that's my disclaimer. You've been warned.

You ladies have been wonderful. Reading this has made me feel so not alone and in a world this cruel that's a beautiful thing.

See you soon, with results!

-Ms. T.-

This helps me so much I thought I was the only one, I've went to the doctor non stop since childbirth... No std, no hurpies, nothing not even an answer... Now I can actually feel like I'm a tad bit normal #thanksMate

Sex is so painful. I love sex and I miss having sex with my Hubby.

I just want my sex life back. Thanks everyone for the information.