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DDDivine
DDDivine

Hi Ladies

I have been on my own dealing with peri menopausal symptoms for a very long time now.  Indifference from medical professionals and a strict clamped jaw policy from any woman I have tried to discuss this subject with has left me feeling utterly isolated.

I wanted to introduce myself and hope to be part of the community so I can share my experiences, give and receive advice and support.

I feel better already just knowing there is a community of women out there who are willing to be open about the fact that menopause is happening.  I have already learned a lot just scanning these pages.

Looking forward to more chats.

DD

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  • sharcerv52408
    sharcerv52408 DDDivine

    Posted

    Hi DDDivine!

    Welcome to the forum! One thing you will never have to worry about on this forum is any of us snubbing you . No question is too weird or out there that we haven't heard. The women here are wonderful, warm and sympathetic. You came to the right place.

    Let me just say, I joined this forum nearly two years ago and I thank God for it. I started having peri symptoms at age 39 after a c section. I am 41 now and they have intensified. When I started getting them, I thought I had some terrible disease. But I stumbled upon this forum quite by accident. But it has been a blessing. I have had so many questions answered and fears put to rest by the experiences we exchange here on this forum. Once again welcome to our sisterhood!

    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 sharcerv52408

      Posted

      Hi

      How are you x

      Im struggling with palpitations and anxiety at the moment. Something that comes and goes as you know. The palpitations really get to me. The thing is I say palpitations but when I take my blood pressure and pulse they are all in normal range???

      It feels like its pounding to me. Just wonder when it will all end. Sorry for my rant but you did ask lol.

      Hope your doing ok x

    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 michelle50768

      Posted

      Just a thought Michelle do you think it's just your more aware of your heartbeat if your anxious you will feel it more I had this with my son recently as pulse was normal when he was complaining of a racing heart it wasn't but just more aware of his heartbeat due to anxiety just a thought Hun. When I have Palpatations my beats go up to 100/200 a minute xx Just a thought Hun xx
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 cazjaz16

      Posted

      Yes hun

      Im beginning to think that is definitely the case. I seem to be obsessed with it in perimenopause. I do have ocd tendencies anyway but seems to be so much worse in perimenopause. thank you so much for taking the time yo reply. Have a good day xxx

    • susan21149
      susan21149 michelle50768

      Posted

      This is how i feel with the palpitations at times its scary and yes it does feel like the heart is racing 
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 susan21149

      Posted

      Yes it is but im now beginning to realise ive developed severe anxiety in perimenopause and it sucks x
  • susan21149
    susan21149 DDDivine

    Posted

    Hi DDDivine

    Welcome to the group. I know that i have been experincing a lot of menopause symptoms and yes it has made me quite sick can't even eat today. Woke up in the middle of the night with a bad stomach ache had a lot of diarrhea and threw up too. Did not sleep after that was really restless and not feeling good. Nose kept dripping little bit of blood too so today i am just resting. 

  • tina03180
    tina03180 DDDivine

    Posted

    Hi DD,

    like you i am so gllad I found this site. I am suffering but many of the symptoms a lot of you are but actual;ly think that after reading some posts im getting off lightly at the moment. I get breast pain, cant sleep at times, hot, cold etc etc etc..

    Glad to speak to you Take care xx

    • RhondaS
      RhondaS tina03180

      Posted

      Tina I didn't even think about the breast pain.  I have that also.  I didn't really think it might also be a menopause symptom. 
  • manda16171
    manda16171 DDDivine

    Posted

    Hello DD, yes you have come to the right place.  This forum has such wonderful  women  openly & honestly sharing  their ups & downs & very personal experiences. My initial post title was 'All these posts may have saved me'. 

    I have read similar posts on a FB closed group. One too many not so nice answers. This forum feels alot safer & definately more positively supportive.

  • NuttyNan
    NuttyNan DDDivine

    Posted

    Hi DD, Welcome. You're in good hands here, all the ladies here are caring & friendly giving support & advice. I have found this form to be very comforting & knowing you're not alone in all this meno mayhem helps to lighten the load. Doesn't matter how you feel or what you want to say/share....we will listen! nothing is too 'out there'  I've had many days filled with dread, scary tearful meno moments & thinking I won't see tomorrow but being in this forum & having a 'chat' & receiving comforting replies of other shared meno moments etc has helped me to try to keep positive that I can & will get through all this. I just take each day as it comes. Here, we laugh together, cry together & rant n rave together. 

    Heres to all us ladies 💖 see you soon DD, keep well.

  • ImagineOneDay
    ImagineOneDay DDDivine

    Posted

    Welcome to the group DDDivine.  I too find this group extremely useful, helpful and supportive unlike GPs and so called professionals. Hope you find it beneficial in days to come. Good luck with your menopause!
  • DDDivine
    DDDivine

    Posted

    Thank you all so much for the warm welcome...nearly set me off into a pool of Menopausal tears that did!!!

    I am in the midst of a really busy week but look forward to delving deeper this weekend.  I am hoping to find out a bit more about;

    Brain fog, and how to keep your edge at work (and the younger, sharper people from ripping the confidence from under your feet)

    Whether anyone else has experienced the onset of seizures as part of their menopause symptoms, and

    How to manage the loss of libido.

    These are my three burning questions right now and I feel sure the answers will be contained on this forum somewhere.

    Hugs till the weekend,

    DD

    x

    • Highlands51
      Highlands51 DDDivine

      Posted

      Hi DD,  I suffer from brain fog and work in technical roles, it's hard these days.  I know what you mean.

      ​It may well be that your oestrogen levels are causing these problems, and possibly you need progsterone to balance things out, progesterone has a calming effect (I am sure you know this, so apologies for repeating,) progesterone may just help with seizures, just a thought.

      Also what about some nice calming herbal teas;  lemon balm for rest/cognative function etc, really excellent.  Very soothing.  I would suggest the tincture, however I would start with a tea.  This will just help with sleep.  

      ​I hope this helps.

      ​PS.  We have  experience/skills - younger set do not have our level of skills/life skills either, they have to keep up with you and learn from you.

       

    • RhondaS
      RhondaS DDDivine

      Posted

      For your three questions...

      My brain fog comes and goes so I can't tell you anything about that.  Seizures as a symptom oh my.  That's a stumper.  I would ask a doctor about that one.  Maybe your emotions are setting you up for an epileptic event.  Doesn't really sound like a menopause symptom.

      The loss of labido I can speak to.  It is miserable.  But the only thing you can do is follow the old saying Fake it till you make it.  Get lubrication for any dryness and make yourself dive in.  I have that same problem.  I feel sorry for our husbands on that one.

    • RhondaS
      RhondaS Highlands51

      Posted

      Hi Highland I saw you mentioned tea.  I used to love my tea but now unfortunately the heat from the tea brings on really bad hot flashes.  So that one doesn't work for everone. sad
    • Highlands51
      Highlands51 RhondaS

      Posted

      Probably the hot liquid..I find that, but it should be a temporary thing.!
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Highlands51

      Posted

      Regarding you saying low levels of hormones I'm sure we are all aware of how the menopause works with levels dropping you can only replace these if you go on the HRT route. Just saying 🤔
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 DDDivine

      Posted

      Depending on what you mean about seizures Hun I would definitely visit your doctor Hun as that's not a normal part of the menopause unless you are tethering towards some form of epilepsy Hun xx
    • RhondaS
      RhondaS Highlands51

      Posted

      The hot flashes may be temporary after drinking the tea but not so relaxing anymore knowing that it is coming.  i really love my tea darn it. 
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 RhondaS

      Posted

      Have you tried ice tea used to love it when I was in the states
    • RhondaS
      RhondaS cazjaz16

      Posted

      I love all tea but have to be careful these days due to kidney disease.  I guess I will just drink my hot tea with a fan blowing. smile
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