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Ses I am so sorry to hear you are having such a bad time with your daughter. I have learn't that there are times when you have to stand back and let them get on with what they are doing. I know it is hard and very upsetting, but try not to get drawn into the battle and be as supportive as you can. I'm sure she will eventually see for herself that its much better having the support of a loving mum. My 16 year old has put me through hell this last year and I am sure it has played a big part in my illness so now I am trying to block(those upsetting feelings) and accept that she is now an adult and will learn from her own misstakes. Oh its so hard but needs to be done so that I am well to look after the rest of my family.Take care and I wish you all the best and hugs for the bad moments.

Linda sorry to hear about your Mum and her brother. That you feel a little better today.

Di I hope Johns hospital appt. goes well for him. Di I hope you are Ok and that you are not feeling too low. Take care of yourself.

Tess hope you are well? Have you got any trips planned. I'm looking for a campsite by the coast for our holiday in July.

Lindy hope you are well and not working too hard.

Take care eveyone.

Lizzy

Ses good to see you on site again. Its not very nice your number being barred so you can't text your daughter. I am sure she will get in touch with you when she sees things more clearly. :lol:

Lizy are you a member of the caravan club site. If you are there is a Cl site where normally only five vans go at mablethorpe. Its at Trustthorpe near Mablethorpe in Lincolnshire. The beach is just over the bank and it has a shower and toilet. Its a pound to have a shower and the cost is £11.50 a night. If you should want to book it can let you have the ladys name and telephone number. We are going away this Friday 3rd July to Monday 6th July to Silverstone for some car rally racing. Stewart is looking forward to it. :lol:

Hope everyone else is ok today!

Love Tess x x

Hope you all have better weather than we do, raining :!: But hot with it makes me feel even worse.

My cousins haven`t arranged the funeral yet, their Mum died when they were only 16 and 15 yrs old, and think its just a bit overwhelming for them. We have several elderly relatives who all live some distance away who they don`t really know so I phoned them with the news. Only one is younger than my Mum and it really brought home just how bad she is I guess as she always says its old age and living alone that makes her forgetful, I`d sort have come to believe it. It was such a shock to realise that its not true :!: I had long conversations with all of them and caught up with all the news. It appears none of them realised what was wrong with Mum but all said they had many strange telephone conversations with her. When all the time she tells us she never hears from anyone. It`s an awful thing to even remotely think about but I realise now why I`m always worked up and worried when we visit, she just doesn`t seem like my Mum anymore :cry: The things she says about people and none of it is true, I wonder now what she tells other people about us.

The dementia seems to have come very gradually and I suppose because I have so much else on my mind always I`ve sort of pushed it to the back of my mind and hope it would go away. Think I will look to see if there is a forum on here for dementia etc and maybe I can get some information. Going to see her tomorrow so fingers crossed its not too bad a day.

Have a good weekend all

Love Linda

We have had rain as well today! Strange day with the weather like you say it is warm but wet. :cry:

Hope you get on ok tomorrow with your mum! Sounds a bit like Stewart's mum she has some dementia. :cry: She always says she hasn't seen anyone or heard from anyone when she has. She is in a nursing home now and went in before Christmas last year. Some days are better than others for her. :cry:

My dad had his vein go in his leg again this morning so back to the hospital. He is home now and my brother and sister went round this time to help him clean up the blood. :cry: Not a very nice job to do as Stewart has done it several times for my dad. He has a carpet cleaner but does still take a good while to do. Then there is still some blood stains there but only faint.

Well hope all goes well for you.

Love Tess x x

SES, what a real rough time ur having right now. Your ex sounds a bit like mine. The dirty scoundrel (Im being polite) is using ur daughter to get a u. U`ll know this anyway. SHe`s at that age where she`s either all sugar or all sh*te! Ive got a boy upstairs just the same. Its so hard stepping back and letting them do their own thing, make mistakes....as u know they are doing. But, thats the only way they`ll learn. She will eventually see her dad for what he is....I promise u. My boy did. They`re just at a very gullible, age and take they`re tantrums out on people they love...US! They break ur bloody heart at times.

You need to look after yourself chick and as Lizy says, try not to get drawn in by it. Your ex is playing games...bloody low down ones at that, and using ur daughter to do it. I know what I could do to him.. :twisted:

Linda, hope ur ok. Sorry to hear about ur mum. It must be such a worry.

Tess, hope ur dad gets on ok at hospital. Weather has been dull and showery over the weekend. And guess what? Im going to be a (step) granny again.. :D

Di, I hope ur feeling a bit better. Good luck to John with his hospital appt

Lizy, hope all is well with u and urs. Hope u enjoy ur holiday. U found a campsite yet?

Catch up soon all

Take Care

Lindy..x

Linda, my grandmother whom I was brought up with I found on the bedroom floor when I had my eldest daughter whom I am having trouble with now, she had a stroke was in a coma for two weeks and was unable to walk , blind and had dementia, ..... I remember sitting in my mums living room as she was looking after my nana as Melissa was only three months old...... and I remember her saying she thought my mam was trying to bury her alive, it was awful, all these very vivid stories, and it was so awful hearing these stories that were not true........ my Nana lived for eight years like that she did have to go in a nursing home as it was hard work.....and towards the end she had not spoken to anyone....... until she heard my voice....... she shouted Sara!!!! I cried, she died a few weeks later, but seeing a loved one like that is awful!!!! I think as my granddad whom had his legs amputated and was bed ridden for eight years also I think this effected her somehow as it was a strain on my Nana obviously as my Granddad got gangrene.... and it eventually went to his head...... I have vivid memories on this too but no matter all this and living with my grandparents I showed my mum respect..... I would never speak to my mum or elders like my daughter has done!!!!!!

My mobile number has changed, soon will my land line so he will not text me no more to give me digs on what I am missing.......I have thought things over in my head and I have thought I tried as last Sunday I asked her to come for her dress and she said \"thanks for f**king up my fathers day\" and so i told her not to bother I forgot about that!!!! so I do not and will not now feel guilty for my actions...... my land line is changing also in the next couple of days and I am gonna see my solicitor as now I am entitled to legal aid....... so even tho I have lost financially so to speak it has gained in the legal side!!!!! he has a fight on his hands!!!!! and where as the house goes I am gonna get moved as I feel if we can sell this house then a break is what we need get rid of bad memory's and create new ones in a new home!!!!! Anyway let's see??? nothing will run smoothly I expect....... but I will focus now on my new plans as us 4 as a family....... Melissa will have to ask her dad to give up work to look after her child if she wants to continue hairdressing as they live too far away and due to my health I cannot associate with her father as I had tried at mediation which he made me look like a laughing stock...... so I will not tolerate his manner!!!!!

Hope your dad is ok at hospital Tess xxxx

Linda thinking of you at this awful time xxx

Thanks Lizy xx

Di I hope you are resting xxx

Thank you all xxx I hope this lovely weather is help you all with your aches and pains.... I am off to rhuemo I hope on Tuesday..... not sure if I have the day wrong as cannot find letter...... fingers crossed I am not wrong???

Love to you all xxxx

Take care everyone xxx :cheerup:

Hope you got on ok yesterday Linda with your mum and things are getting sorted for you. :lol: Lindy & Ses yes Dad doing ok only stayed in hospital until it was dressed and out the same day. Its just not knowing when it will happen and the mess it makes and cleaning after. :cry: Scary for him as well. :cry: Congratulations Lindy on being a step granny again. :lol: When is the baby due! Ses good to hear your got your phone number changed so your ex can't keep upsetting you. :cry: Hope you are managing to cope a little better now. :lol:

Lizy and Di hope you are both doing ok and enjoying the sunshine if it is out where you are. We have had some lovely weather but too hot at night to sleep. I am busy trying to get everything sorted for going away Friday but have had a busy week so far. Got Sophie all day so not much getting done on loading van today. Shall have to do it tomorrow. Will be good to spend some time with Sophie. Saw Molly after school for a while last night. My other daughter fetched her from school and took her to gymnastics. :lol:

Well got to get a shower and breakfast now before Sophie comes at 8.

Take care everyone!

Love Tess x x

I wish you all the best at Rheumi today.

Lizzy

Ses hope everything goes ok at hospital today and you get the help you so much deserve. Good you are changing phone numbers, had some funny calls when my daughter was involved with a married man, can be very scary, more so when its your ex :!:

Lindy congrats on expected baby, I don`t think either of mine will ever make me a granny Still my best friend shares her grandchildren with me. Lol

Have a lovely day with Sophie, Tess, she must be doing lots by now and very enjoyable to look after.

Di hope things are improving for you and you are feeling better.

Lizzy hope you are ok too.

The funeral for Mum`s brother who died a week ago today is not for another week :!: Seems a long time to have to wait Council are starting Mum`s improvement programme on27 July so looks like I will have a very busy month Can see it will take me ages to get over it. Going to try and pace myself to get my house ready for our adaptions before then so I don`t have that to worry about as well.

Well going to make a start now before it gets too hot :!:

Love Linda

Hope you are all doing ok! Thought I would come on and let you all know shall be away from Friday until Monday so catch up when I get back with you all. Linda hope you are pacing yourself for your busy month with funeral, your mum's problems and your alterations. Lizy did you find a camp site to stay at? Di hope you are doing ok and feeling a lot better now. Lindy hope you are doing ok as well. Ses hope things are getting a bit easier for you too.

Well have to go as need to fill fridge up with food yet for going away tomorrow. Also need to ring my son tonight who lives in Nottingham.

Another hot day here! Been hot and sunny all week so far until we go away tomorrow lol. Keep fingers crossed good weather will last for us. :lol:

Take care all!

Love Tess x x

Tess have a good weekend hope the weather stays dry for you. We are members of the camping and caravanning club and yes we have made a deccission where to go in a fashion. I have circled all the tempory holiday sites that are open the weeks we are away.Then the day before we shall see which part of the country has the best weather forcast and go there. We use to do this when the kids were young. It will be just a field with a tap & chemical point, but they have been some of our best holidays.

Linda I hope all your adapations all go smoothly and without too much stress and your mums too.

Lindy congratulations on becoming step granny. How do you decide if you are going to be called Granny, Grandma, Gran, Nan, Nanna or what? i think I would like to be called Granny.

Ses I hope you got some answers from the hospital and that you are not worrying too much about your daughter.

Di hows the chest been I hope you are feeling better and not worrying too much.

My step brother moved out today to live with his dad it will be strange for a while as he has been with us for 9 months, but the kids are all looking forward to getting there rooms back and having there own space. His leg is all mended now.

Well better go and start tea now.

Take care all.

Lizzy

been reading up on all ur posts, what alot u all have been through..

well john been to two app.. the one for his heart he is to get a pace maker at some point.. his bowel one was all clear so thank good..

i still get breathless and chest pain and my fibro is in a flare up.. i could not get out of bed till 3pm today... sad eh..

got my app for the clot on 29th of july so hopefull can stop wearing those dreadful support stockings lol....

my niece wedding is on the 18th july dont know if u remeber the trouble we were having about the dresses.. well managed to talk to the family and they agree we needed new ones. so.. they have got ones my kerri hates it but agrees to wear it... teenagers eh.. so i got a nice dress and white jacket out of moonsoon.. its really nice. .so hopefull i dont need the wheelchair that day and can show it off lol..

right i better go.. im always cathing up on ur posts so dont think im not thinking of u all... hope life for u all is good at the moment as stress doesnt go with fibro does it..

luv to u all. di xx

Hope you are doing ok today. :lol: Di good to hear John was ok with his bowel problem. Hope he doesn't have to wait too long for his pacemaker to be fitted. Hope you have a lovely time at the wedding and won't need your wheel chair. :lol: Hope your appt goes ok on 29th July!

Lizy sounds like a good idea for booking your hol! :lol: When are you going? We are with the caravan club and sounds like you are with a different one for camping and caravan. We had a lovely weekend with hot sunny weather and really warm evenings. Sat outside until 9 or later at night. :lol: Saw some renault megane cars racing on the Saturday and some other renault sport type cars. Apparently was about 150,000 people there over the two days. Cost us £35 for the three nights and was staying on Whittlebury Park Campsite and had a fifteen minute walk to the track.

Also had free entertainment on the Fri and Sat night. It was just a field with water tap and chemical point. There was toilets and showers as well scattered about as well as there were more tents than motorhomes, and caravans. Its good your children have now got there rooms back and gives you a bit more of a rest lol.

Ses, Linda, & Lindy hope you are all ok today.

We are back until next Monday then off again for 10 days to Yorkshire and Mablethorpe near the coast. Mablethorpe is where my sister had her ashes scattered as it was a place we use to visit when we were small. :lol:

Well got to go now and catch up again soon.

Love Tess x x

Me again Tess. Meant to say also that while we were away our neighbour Ken who we have lived next door to for twenty years died. He just collapsed and died on Saturday morning outside his house. He was diagnosed about five years ago with an aneuryism in his stomach and was told it there was nothing they could do. The paramedics think it had popped and killed him. He was 74! Was so sad to hear about him as he was a very good neighbour and friend. Went to see his wife today who had only just come back from holiday that morning when it happened. Bless her she lost her brother to cancer in January this year as well. Luckily she has a daughter who lives just across the close to her.

Well hope I haven't depressed you all now with this news. Speak tomorrow.

Love Tess x x

Glad John`s bowel tests were ok Di, and hope all goes well with the pacemaker. Hope things are getting better for you too and you can enjoy the wedding.

Glad you had a good weekend, Tess but sad to come back to the news of your neighbour. I like Mablethorpe too, used to go there as a child and Skegness.

Well, have just about got the dining room moved around for the liift, so just the bedroom to do now. Trying hard to pace myself but getting really exhausted, not sleeping either. Waking up feeling as if I`ve not been to bed. My Uncle`s funeral tomorrow, Mum been a bit confused about the arrangements, but her emotions seem non existant, she knows he`s died and everything but just swaps to her normal conversation subjects and acts like she always does. Does anyone know if dementia effects the emostions?

Ann has to see GP this afternoon, been nursing babies with Swine Flu and now has a cough and sore throat :!: :!: Occupational Health at the hospital told her to see her GP. They all seem very laid back about it, no panic or rush :!:

Well will catch up again soon

Love Linda