Those who know first hand please help me!!
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Hi, ive been reading through your experiences etc and need some advic epelase.....ive been getting very depressed and angry with so much in the world. I want to sleep and not wake up from my head thinking and thinking all the time. I cant sleep, i get confused and cant make decissions as they get me in a muddle and i end up getting head ache and anxious.
Im a mess, reading too too much into everything and its driving me mad. Im pushing peopel away that mean the world and i dont know what to do.
Ive been couselling 3 years ago....no help, and didnt take the anti d's that were prescribed. Listening to peple on them and taking peoples advice now i went started counselling gaian today and got prescribed....errr Citalopram. Its in front of me. Before i take it i feel that i cant handle anymore thoughts and mental pain worse than i feel already.
Do i take it?.....Any advice on pro's or cons?? Please
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I have just read some, not all of your postings, I understand exactly how you feel...my query for me is....are we all striving to be perfect??? Then we get the guilt stick out for not, beat ourselves up about it, loose our self esteem, start worrying about all kind of things, start to have panic attacks, as we are worrying so so much . Then fall apart, because you don't really know what is happening to you!! Then you get a headache, which blinds you and makes you feel sick!
John boy , you could ask the doc for something else.... but maybe it is the case that we all over analyse the given information on the warning leaflet because we are alll over anxious and depressed, and we all anxiously want to get better-not sicker , as the side effects would suugest!!! Would anyone agree with me?
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...its like i want to be perfect...at everything but when im not i feel i failed and i think that im worthless, not good enough.
Im my own worst critic, judge and jury.
What is anxious?....What is anxiety because its the one thing im not sure i am....the only time i feel a struggle to breath is when im argueing and feel like i need to run away.
I did once....left for 6 months and then came home but when i got hoem things were so much worse coz id seen so much and then it was liek being thrown back into this false pretetios world. Its not like this outside england.
How you feeling Katy? Do you feel down everyday? Does anything in particular start it?
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Me, I feel down a lot. Sometimes due to my degree result, sometimes due to my family circumstance, sometimes because not unlike you I think I have not made the grade or shown the world what I can do. Then, for me I become withdrawn, do not want to speak to anyone, hide bla bla.
This summer for instance, I sat my maths exam again, convinced myself that I had failed , to the point where I threw up. When I got my results I was so shocked to find that I had got an A, however, I was so low at that point that It did not make a jot of difference, whereas , normally someything like that would make me happy. ( idid think my Mum was going to die at this point though, and if she was going to recover, the likelihood of her having a breakdown again was high_ So I was v worried for her) As it turns out, she is okay, and it is me that seems to be loosing it completely!
Anyway, whether or not this makes any sense, I think its all aprt of that swinging pendulum, where we go from worry to anxious to depresed to worry to more depression etc, then not unlike what you all habe described battle with our snses to keep our sanity. I found myself snapping and shouting and then crying etc, as i was not myself.
Hope I have helped. What a mess though, don't you think?
Take care John boey and all you others, katy
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I totally understand how you must be feeling, I live with my partner and I feel like he controls me so much that I have no control. I find this so disturbing that i find it difficult to eat.
He plays at being the perfect daddy, and do not get me wrong he is a fantastic dad, but maybe I would like to be considered a little bit more in family life!! I cant leave him, nor do I really want to at the moment, but I just feel , well I suppose, used!
My partner has never managed to change his career since the day we )and that should be underlined) fell pregnant! I feel like I have to do everything. I am applying for post grads, a couple , I do not have the time to waist! We need money, My kids are getting older.
I do not know about your circumstances, the problem for me is that I think I still love my partner , even though there is no affection.
Not unlike your ex wife though, I increased our overdarft, and by the blink of an eye its up high!! This was not deliberate, I do not see it as a betrayal of my partners wishes. We have lived in poverty for so long that I just wanted some comfort. Like a couch to sit on , or a pair of shoes for my child. I see it , that I will fix it. He says, that it is all my problem anyway. I diregard this, for I am trying to pay for a better life for my children. It is too short to comprimise so much, especially for them I do not know if this helps you understand your wifes actions better. But even if my partner does not pull through, I know I will. Its not fair that my children should have to suffer because he is so horizontal! Then again, I am probably the most uptight person you could possibly meet!
on the other side, ny parents divorced when I was elevn. Life was tortire for me and my sister when they were togeher. But i missed my dad a lot when he went , as your kids will miss you, but with effort me and my dad have become really good friends, and I can turn to him, moreso than anyone else. I hope that makes you feel a little bit better. Remeber, even though your not around them 24/7, no matter what, you will always be there dad. Remeber that you always will be though. Sometimes, it seems to me that my dad forgets and tells me a little too musch, but I n a way thats a good thing too.
Hope I have helped. Your children are there for life, no matter what!
Luv katy. Maybe I shpuld listen to my own advice!
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I ve had a tough day today. I only had 2 hrs sleep again and coming down with some sort of yucky bug.
So you are on a downer..not so good...dont worry... it will pass! I have been a goody toe shoes lately, as the doctor has warned me about my drinking...( its not fair!) Half the time, I just want to blot everything out!!
Nevermind...cups of tea and insomnia !!!! |Thats my life at the moment! I think Id rather be hungover, but not unlike you my hangovers started to make me on edge too and nervous.
So ..you have a date..huh? Good luck, enjoy and spoil her.. Hope she is as good to you. :lol:
Anyway, back to mayhem, take care, Katy
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Im not so good. I have a bug and it is making me feel really down.
I am supposed to be applying for that gttr thing, for primary teaching. I keep loosing the web pages....I only have 2 days left to get all the stuff in, in a bit of a state about it!
I asked my step dad for a rederence. This did not go down well either. Mum asked me, \"so what have you achieved in the last 5 years, then Katy?\".
So heres me looking at my 2 children, and the fact i worked part time for 4 years, and the fact that I sat My maths last year and got an A, and the fact that my older sister stayed with us for a year and a half while she did her pgde, bla bla bla, ( So that was not enough!)
So my reply was \"Nothing\" Mum, \"nothing\".
Is she just trying to push me harder, or what ? I just felt so gutted, yet I still have to finish this rubbish application. Yeah, and lets look at the fact, that I probably want get in to any of them....but god, ...at least I try!
Anyway, hope you are over your night out. Its good that you were out socialising!
anyway, enough of mooaaannyyy me, take care, Katy(Sorry, just had to let all that out!)
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Must be the day for it, im feeling like s**t today, so regret the other night, feel guilty etc, drove to work this morning on auto pilot thinking of my old life and getting more down, sometime i think i will never stop missing my old life, know im stuck in a situation at work, last thing i need is an issue at work, only thing thats good at the moment, what a mess, i just want to be normal again, after this weekend i only have my kids for 2 full days before xmas day, cant stand the thought of that, i miss them so so much, dont want the single freedom, just want my kids back, sorry for going on, i know u have got your own probs, oh yeah took my pills , take care and do the application JA
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My personal statement....was...a.bag of s...t! I lost it so many times on the web....pain in the neck!!!
Sorry to hear you are missing your children. What are you getting them for xmas? I am getting my eldest a mobile phone...have your kids got them yet...?.
You need to look forward. Look forward to seeing them at christmas, and make it special for them. I am sure they will miss you to, but I suppose, like myself, we all just have to make the most of a bad situation. I know it doesn't change things, and you will still get down..but I suppose, thats what we have to do...make the most of what we've got. i reckon,, that although we all get realy low about stuff, there is always someone so much worse of! I dont know what you are going through at the moment, but you have to keep going for their sake!
Does that all sound patreunising, ...sorry I can't spell. I just hope you can keep your chim up about things...its difficult...but hopefully we will all get out of our cages, and be happy again..one day soon.
Glad to hear you took your pill!
Take care, Katy
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My dad, for instance threw himself at his career, when he split up with my mum. Then he had several girlfriends, and eventually he remarried and now seems quite happy.
I think though, like me, you probably over analyse the situation and worry, worry , worry! Maybe you could book a holiday or something, 2 weeks abroad with your children, Give yourself time with them, and give yourself something to look forward to.
You are probably braver than me, I cant handle the victorian abuse I have to put up in my relationship. (just because my feet are small, does not mean that they have to be strapped to the kitchen sink0does it?). I just dont know what to do about my situation, but I also cant handle the thought of hurting anyone, let alone my kids. Sometimes though, needs must and you have to act in the best interests of your children. Sorry Ja, I am at a loss here, but pls keep your chin up and doddle along!
Katy
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My partner has got my hackles up!!!
If you were offered a free holiday abroad...would you take it?
(Well I know what my answer would be). Well, there is no such thing as a straight line in my life..
My application has got stuck in the system...14hrs to go before deadline....bloddy typical!!!!Och well, it was rubbish...perhaps its a blessing? Or just my luck!!!!Nearly threw computer out of window...hate the thing...it keeps crashing!!!!
I am in an awful mood....and I have to meet me mum, yet again today....its nearly everyday...I am not allowed to make my own life! I want to go and visit some of my friends....get some juicy goss...bla bla bla...no..np. Sorry, this does not make me feel like a nice person...droaning on about that stuff....when really I should just count my blessings and be glad that she is still with us. (I love her!)...Need some space though...let me breathe!
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I spoke to my counsellor about my mum and my relationship, our mums are probably hurting like us seeing their babies going through this, i try not to bite m easier said than done, but when calm u do realise that they mean the best and that they have your interest at heart, do need space though, good luck with your application, let us know how it went, JA
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