TURPs dirty little secret
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You won’t ejaculate !
Most urologists won’t tell you that tho.
When you have a 27 year old wife who wants children it’s an important issue,this could cause some people to divorce.
My wife is heart broken and I feel like I’ve let her down and wouldn’t blame her for leaving me .
Get the facts guys on prostate procedures before it’s too late .
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Waffalobill kenneth_42676
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kenneth_42676 Waffalobill
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Waffalobill kenneth_42676
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Low is better than none, or in your words " you won't ejaculate"
oldbuzzard kenneth_42676
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Suggesting that TURP is the only path forward is borderline malpractice in itself. There are several other procedures that along with a high likelihood of preserving ejaculation, don't require the risk of anesthesia, have much shorter recovery times and almost no chance of any permanent side effects. And most of the time they work as well as TURP, while not precluding more invasive procedures if they become necessary.
Not sure if you're interested in a lawsuit, but if you can prove that there was no discussion of RE prior to surgery, you may well have a malpractice claim. At the very least, you should report this doc to the state medical association. IMO, she should lose her license to practice medicine.
FWIW, there is probably a way to harvest your own sperm and your wife may well come around. Good luck.
kenneth_42676 oldbuzzard
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At any rate it’s over now and I must live with it.
I’m not interested in a lawsuit .
oldbuzzard kenneth_42676
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Again - probably borderline malpractice. Most of the noninvasive procedures don't have a size limit. Your doc obviously told you things that weren't true and withheld things that are.
I get not wanting to sue. But if you can stomach it, at least report her to the state medical board in hopes of saving someone else from the same fate.
How did she determine your prostate size and what was it?
derek76 kenneth_42676
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kenneth1955 derek76
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kenneth1955 kenneth_42676
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First of all I'm sorry for what you are going through. I'm not yelling at you. I feel your pain. But you should have gone and got a second opinion and another thing you should have not gone to a women urologist. They do not know how a man feels they only know what they learn in books. And it does happen There are some urologist that only talk a little about sex. They will tell you all with be the same because when we get older they feel that we don't need the ejaculation. And they do not feel that it is a function. Some make jokes. But what done is done. If you want you can go through the procedure to get the sperm because it is going backwards into the bladder or they can get some from the testicles. If you wife loves you you can still have a baby. It may not be the normal way but you can't give up hope. Also you have not been the first man that have been through this the Urologist first concern is to help you pee. Anything after that is not there problem. I believe she did not tell you or she did not explain it right. Good luck I hope all goes well for you Ken
waveydavey kenneth1955
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kenneth1955 waveydavey
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lee56659 waveydavey
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Not only was it insensitive and inappropriate, to lecture someone on what they should have done after the fact is insulting and condescending. But if you've spent any amount of time on this forum, this is par for the course from this individual. I think he means well but seems unable to grasp that this kind of response does no one any good.
kenneth1955 lee56659
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Good evening Lee. We can't do anything after the fact but maybe this will teach other men to talk and ask question with there doctors before they have a procedure. I have been on here over 3 years and I have help many men and in contact still with most of them. I may not say things all the time the way other people do but we are all on here to help when we can. I feel sorry for Ken because of what happen but like he said he will just have to live with it. Life goes on I wish you all well Ken
kenneth_42676 waveydavey
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This female urologist came HIGHY RECOMENDED by several other doctors that my wife practices with in her office, I didn’t pick her name out of the phone book .
Personally I am done with this forum, to many know it alls and to many bullies.
Thank all who were cordial to me including you sir .
derek76 kenneth_42676
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All the more reason for her to be straightforward with you. I can see that your wife's connection with the practice puts you in a difficult situation.
Pepasan kenneth_42676
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I don't blame you for turning away, given the way your question gave rise to debate you hadn't asked for! However, having seen, over the many months I've been on this forum, a number of original posters get some welcome advice and assistance, I hope you will try again if you have a need to get more reaction in the form of honest experience and ideas from the variety of responders who occasionally get it right and do at times offer genuine and valuable help and information.
All the best to you.
derek76 Pepasan
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If his wife is in a medical practice it must surely have been a subject for her to discuss or look for information on.
Of all conditions BPH is the one with the most procedures and poorest outcomes.
kenneth1955 derek76
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