I have a fear of getting cancer or any type of illness, I need help.
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I'm pretty new to these kind of forums so sorry if what I am about to say sounds utterly bonkers, but I've developed this fear of getting cancer, I feel like an utter coward and a fool for feeling like this and especially selfish to all the brave people out there fighting it.
I can't really define what has triggered this fear as my family thankfully are very healthy specimens, however I know alot of family friends that have got different kinds of cancer, some lucky and still in remission and others not so fortunate.
I constantly fear that I have cancer, a tummy ache and i have stomach or bowel cancer, a headache and i have a brain tumour etc I am constantly poking and prodding at anything i think isn't normal for me. Its gotten so bad that i have myself in a routine now to keep myself sane, I wake up in the morning and read something awful that has maybe happened to a young female like myself and all of a sudden they have either been diagnosed or have died from cancer and then i totally freak and will pick up my laptop and check symptoms and then convince myself that I have it and then will end up having a panic attack followed by uncontrollable crying, I can't do this anymore. I have a great loving partner but this is a special year for him so he needs to be committed to the project he is working on not being my carer 24/7. I can't eat properly any more or even go out the door without fearing i might take a panic attack, I am trying to keep positive some days but I'm finding it tough, we have recently moved to Bedford so I don't have any friends to go see or talk to and take my mind of this.
Is it always going to be like this? i feel so trapped and bullied by my own mind at the moment. I just want to be normal again.
I would really appreciate any advice or tips on how I can kick this.
Thanks everyone.
x
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kristal76579 iwanttobenormal
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alice49774 iwanttobenormal
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Fairy28 alice49774
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malka56283 alice49774
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I am new to this forum, I have read your post and I am exacttly like you,
I go from one thing to another alwats thinking the worst and I won't see my beatiful daughter grow up, I had some irregular bleeding a nd thoght I had cerviacal cancer, I was terrified couldn't eat or sleep, my smear was normal blood tests etc, so it wasn't cancer, now I have a small lump thta I guess could be an internal pile, but I am conviced it is recta cancer, I'm going to the GP tomorrow and I am terrified, even though I looked it up and it said 95percent of cases are in people over 50 and I am only 43, I cannot seem to get this fear under control and I can't stand it anymore,
It's exhausting!!!
mikeyh146 iwanttobenormal
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I picked a scab the other morning and I was convinced it wouldn't stop bleeding and I was dying,
It ruins my day sometimes this feeling and deep down I know it's silly but I just can't control it.
It is so nice to come across people who feel the same way, I felt so alone for so long.
colleen_2828 mikeyh146
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Hi everyone, well I'm not new to this site but new to this thread & I am so glad I found it. I am driving myself mad with fear, its so bad now the slightest thought becomes reality. I was diagnosed with divaticular in 2005, then they found a thickening on my uterus (I'm 62) after day surgery I was told its all fine & my divaticular is controllable. But I think it will all get worse, I keep thinking there is no point in joining slimming world because I will probably lose weight & be happy again & then die so what's the point, I have had so much time off work I have been dropped to half pay, I have stopped seeing friends & my family haven't a clue what's wrong with me. I lost my mum when I was 33 she had lung cancer but was a smoker, I have never smoked. I'm too embarrassed to tell my Gp. Sorry to go on. God bless.
prashanthi123 iwanttobenormal
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Im 13 years old. I have the same fear. It started with a fear o death/dying and then went to the fear of cancer. I have done the same things as u checking my body for any unusual signs. I need help. Any tips or suggestions? I have talked to many counselors and gotten some relif for some time but not for a long period of time. Though, I don't have a family history of cancer or known ayone that has had or died of cancer. I feel bullied and trapped in my own mind. I don't enjoy the things I used and I'm only 13. Please help me.
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TaraBear80 iwanttobenormal
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I came across this site after a 5 day Google binge on breast cancer all due to an itchy breast. Coulda been hormones or allergies but convinced myself it's cancer. If I have any ailment I fear it's cancer. So many of my friends are getting diagnosed with it that I even elected to stay away from social media sites just to get it out of my mind. Not that the idea worked cause here I am amidst a full blown panic. I worry normal ailments to the point that they feel worse than they should. If they should even hurt at all. Count on me to worry so hard that I create the ailment....thus leads to panic attacks. I have anxiety disorder already so you can imagine how worked up o can get myself. To the point of nausea. It's made me about 100x more introverted than I ever was. I don't know how to stop it, or make it better. I know that there is nothing wrong but I'm so afraid of hospitals and worst case synerios (speaking from a long list of major surgeries I've had in the past). I worry about not seeing my daughter grow up. Worst part is I spend so much time worrying and stress for no reason that I've missed 8 years of her life already. She was. Miracle baby at that. (Ok now crying...) it's just hard . Living is hard, yet I'm so terrified of death....
danielle16133 iwanttobenormal
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sar11492 iwanttobenormal
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I was also in the exact same boat, and have decided to actually make an account just to respond to this. I also want to point out how interesting it is that this forum has started over one year ago, yet here are so many people still contributing up until TODAY, showing that none of us are alone in this.
This being said, I went through the exact same thing around the time I was 13-15. I literally began to see a therapist and have sessions and tell him how the big C word terrified me to the point of bad anxiety. I refused any anxiety medication treatments as that even scared me, but I began to preoccupy my mind, through spending a lot of time with my family. I can say I was forunate enough to be able to travel, and honestly if that option is available to you, please do it. It brought a whole new level of relaxation to my mind knowing that the world is so VAST and grand, and that there is so much more to be focused on than a disease that your mind obsesses over. I realized all I wanted to hear is just "you are okay, everything is okay, you are healthy." and I felt the guilt of needing to place this burden on one person to constantly tell me it.
Anyways. It was not until two weeks ago (now being 21) that this fear has returned in my mind, as recently there have been a lot of talks of childrens cancer on my newsfeed. It just brought back such a rushing fear to the point that I have asked my GP to do blood work and ironically enough, my White Blood Cell count dropped by .5 than 4 months ago and is at 3.5 now. This has led to me to a crazy panic attack.
At the end of the day, I just want to stop myself from entering what I went through during my teen years. And in regards to every persons response here, I just want you all to know that you're okay. When we enter that mindset where we search for symptoms, we almost imagine these things actually happening to our bodies. I could focus so hard on a tumour to the point where I get a tension headache. Our imaginations are much stronger than we credit them for, and it's important to realize that and put it to a more positive light.
We're also in a rapidly fast paced technological era right now, where it IS possible to conquer these diseases in multiple forms.
We are all okay.
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colleen_2828 sar11492
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This has been such an eye opener, I am amazed that so many people share my fears & my heart breaks for the very young on this site, I was so lucky in having a worry free teens & I would wish that for you all. Everywhere we look we see adverts for Cancer charities & MacMillan Nurses so its no wonder we all panic so much, but as much as cancer is so out there these days instead of being kept a secret, so have the advancements in treatment, my neighbour had breast cancer & is on a five year plan, next to her my friend of 30 years has ovarian cancer, I feel like its travelling up the street...how ridiculous is that! I am so sick of living in my own shadow, I don't want my grand children to have memories of me as being a hermit & always ill, I want to be the fun person I always was until this fear stuck in my head trapped me. Am I nuts? xxx