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Child attachment disorder

Normally babies develop a close attachment bond with their main caregiver (usually their parents) within the first months of life. If they are in a situation where they do not receive normal love and care, they cannot develop this close bond. This may result in a condition called attachment disorder. It usually happens to babies and children who have been neglected or abused, or who are in care or separated from their parents for some reason.

The effect of not having this bond is problems with behaviour and in dealing with emotions and new situations. This can cause effects which carry on right through childhood and into their adult life. However, if attachment disorder is picked up early, it can often be put right. This may be by helping the parents or carers respond better to the needs of the child. Sometimes the child may need to be removed from a damaging home environment and placed with other carers.

At a glance

  • Child attachment disorder (CAD) is a range of difficulties seen in children who experienced neglect or abuse early in life.

  • It can cause emotional, behavioural, and social problems.

  • Reactive attachment disorder shows withdrawn behaviour; disinhibited attachment disorder causes inappropriate friendliness to strangers.

  • Signs may include a baby crying inconsolably or older children avoiding touch, being aggressive, or excessively friendly.

  • Treatment involves providing a loving and stable environment, sometimes with professional support for caregivers.

  • If you have concerns about a child's care, contact social services or the NSPCC.

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What is child attachment disorder?

Child attachment disorder is a broad term for a series of difficulties that can develop in children who were neglected or abused in early childhood.

"Attachment" is a well-established concept in childhood development. Babies and infants form a relationship with adults that care for them, who are sensitive and responsive to their needs, and who remain a stable presence in their life. These interactions are very important for children to set their expectations and understanding of social relationships in future.

When children don't form an attachment relationship with a trusted adult in infancy, they can go on to develop a series of emotional, behavioural, and social problems, called child attachment disorder. This might happen if their caregiver is neglectful, abusive, or absent.

Child attachment disorder (CAD) always develops before the age of 5 years and usually much earlier. It always occurs in children who have not had normal care as a baby.

Examples of children at risk of attachment disorder include:

  • Children who have been neglected or abused.

  • Children in care institutions.

  • Children who have been placed with a series of different carers.

  • Children who have been separated from their parents, through illness, death, war, etc.

  • Children whose parents abuse drugs or alcohol.

  • Children whose parents have serious mental health problems.

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It may be possible to recognise signs that a baby is developing attachment disorder, from the lack of connection between the baby and his/her mother or caregiver (attachment style). For example:

  • The baby cries inconsolably.

  • The mother or caregiver doesn't seem to react to the baby when the child is distressed.

  • The mother or carer doesn't respond to the baby's needs - for example, hunger or needing a nappy change.

  • The mother or carer doesn't seem to smile at the baby or have any eye contact.

Later, once attachment disorder has developed, signs might include:

  • The baby or child doesn't turn to his/her mother or main caregiver when upset.

  • The baby or child avoids physical touch or being comforted.

  • The baby or child does not smile or respond when interacting with an adult.

  • The child does not show any affection towards his/her parent or caregiver.

  • The baby or child does not seem to be upset in situations where you might expect them to be upset.

  • The child does not play with toys or engage in interactive games with others.

  • The child has difficult, aggressive behaviour towards other children or adults.

  • The child is very withdrawn and does not interact with other children or adults.

  • The child is anxious, fearful, or depressed.

  • The child is unable to control his/her temper or anger.

  • The child is not getting on very well at school.

  • By the time the child is a teenager, they may be more likely to be in trouble with the police. They may have anxiety, depression or phobias.

Or:

  • The child is inappropriately friendly to children or adults they don't know.

  • The child may hug people they don't know, or in inappropriate situations (a doctor or teacher for example).

  • The child has no wariness of strangers. The child may go off with somebody they don't know without checking with their parent(s) or caregiver.

There are two types of attachment disorder:

  • Reactive attachment disorder (RAD).

  • Disinhibited attachment disorder.

Reactive attachment disorder (RAD)

Children with reactive attachment disorder show a consistent pattern of inhibited, emotionally withdrawn behaviour towards adult caregivers. The child rarely or minimally seeks comfort when distressed, and rarely or minimally responds to comfort when distressed.

There is minimal social and emotional responsiveness to others, limited positive affect, and episodes of unexplained irritability, sadness, or fearfulness that are evident even during non-threatening interaction with adult caregivers.

The child has typically experienced a pattern of extremes of insufficient care, such as social neglect or deprivation with persistent lack of having basic emotional needs for comfort, stimulation, and affection met by caregiving adults.

There may be a history of repeated changes of primary caregivers that limit opportunities to form stable attachments, or rearing in unusual settings that severely limit opportunities to form selective attachments - eg, within institutions.

Disinhibited attachment disorder

This is also called disinhibited social engagement disorder (DSED). Children with this type of attachment disorder are excessively and inappropriately friendly towards people they don't know.

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Attachment disorder is caused by the child not having a loving responsive carer, so the main treatment is to make sure they feel loved by their parent or main caregiver and know the relationship is secure.

How this is done will depend on the situation. In some cases, parents may need help in learning how to respond to the needs of their children (parenting skills training). Specialist advice should be available through the local children's social services.

In other situations, a child may be removed from an uncaring environment and provided with a caring foster parent or adoptive parent. Once a child is in a caring environment where they feel safe and cared for, most signs of RAD improve very quickly. Those children with DSED may continue to have the symptoms even after they are well cared for.

There is no medication for CAD; it is treated in practical ways, by changing the situation. Sometimes talking (psychological) therapy is used for the difficult behaviours that children with attachment disorder develop.

Strategies which may be used, depending on the age and situation of the child include:

  • Finding the child a stable, permanent and caring placement.

  • Video feedback training programmes for parents or caregivers.

  • Other training programmes or support for parents or caregivers (including sensitivity and behavioural therapy).

  • Family therapy (parent-child psychotherapy).

  • Play therapy in groups.

  • Training and support for foster carers, guardians and adoptive parents.

  • Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). This is a type of talking therapy which may be used to give young people who have been maltreated help in coming to terms with the problems they have had.

If you have concerns about a child who may have attachment disorder, or a child who is not being cared for properly, call social services. In the UK you can also call the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) Child Protection helpline (freephone 0808 800 5000).

Attachment disorder is entirely preventable. If babies have access to stable, loving care they will not go on to develop attachment disorder. It is important that health, social care and education professionals are aware of the risks for attachment disorder and the signs of it.

Children placed in care should have long-term stable placements, rather than a series of different carers. If possible they should be with family. Foster carers, guardians and adoptive parents should have special training and support to help prevent attachment disorder, and to manage the situation if it has already occurred.

Depending on the situation of the child and the caregiver, there are a number of support groups which offer information and advice. The local children's social services team would normally be involved and provide help and advice.

Frequently asked questions

Does my child still have attachment issues if they are very attached only to me?

The article describes attachment disorder as developing when children do not form a secure attachment with any trusted adult in infancy, leading to emotional, behavioural, and social problems. It highlights that signs of developed attachment disorder include either not turning to a main caregiver when upset and avoiding comfort, or being inappropriately friendly with strangers. The article does not directly address situations where a child is exclusively very attached to one parent, while neglecting others, as a symptom of attachment disorder.

What is the difference between a child that cries a lot and a baby showing signs of attachment disorder?

The article mentions that a baby crying inconsolably can be a sign that attachment disorder is developing. However, this is usually seen in conjunction with a lack of connection where the mother or caregiver does not seem to react or respond to the baby's distress or needs, such as hunger or needing a nappy change. It's the caregiver's unresponsive behaviour that, in combination with the crying, points to a potential issue with attachment formation, rather than just the crying itself.

Can children with disinhibited attachment disorder ever fully recover?

The article states that for children with reactive attachment disorder (RAD), most signs improve very quickly once they are in a caring environment where they feel safe and cared for. However, it specifically notes that those children with disinhibited social engagement disorder (DSED) 'may continue to have the symptoms even after they are well cared for'. This suggests that full recovery might be more challenging or less probable, compared to RAD, even with appropriate care.

Is it possible for attachment disorder to be misdiagnosed as another condition?

The article does not directly discuss misdiagnosis. However, it outlines various signs of attachment disorder, including difficult or aggressive behaviour, withdrawal, anxiety, fearfulness, depression, and inability to control temper. These symptoms could potentially overlap with other childhood conditions, suggesting that a careful assessment considering the child's early care experiences would be crucial for an accurate diagnosis.

What is the long-term outlook for a teenager or adult who had attachment disorder as a child?

The article briefly touches on the long-term outlook, stating that by the time a child with attachment disorder reaches their teenage years, 'they may be more likely to be in trouble with the police. They may have anxiety, depression or phobias.' This indicates that the impact of attachment disorder can persist into adolescence, potentially leading to ongoing mental health challenges and behavioural issues if not adequately addressed in childhood.

Are there specific legal protections or provisions in the UK for preventing child attachment disorder?

The article mentions that health, social care, and education professionals should be aware of the risks and signs of attachment disorder, and that children placed in care should have long-term stable placements. It also advises that foster carers, guardians, and adoptive parents should receive special training and support. While these point to systemic efforts, the article does not detail specific legal protections or provisions, beyond the general involvement of local children's social services and helplines like the NSPCC.

Can children with attachment disorder form healthy relationships later in life?

The article explains that the interactions babies have with responsive caregivers are 'very important for children to set their expectations and understanding of social relationships in future'. When attachment disorder develops, it affects their ability to form those early foundational relationships. While the article doesn't explicitly state whether healthy relationships can be formed later, the treatment focuses on establishing a secure relationship with a loving caregiver, and therapies like CBT are used to help young people come to terms with past problems, which implicitly aims to improve their capacity for future healthy interactions. However, it doesn't give a definitive answer on the long-term success of forming healthy relationships.

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Dr Doug McKechnie, MRCGP

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Dr Doug McKechnie is an NHS GP working in London. He works full-time clinically and is also the Deputy Lead for the Clinical and Professional Practice module at University College London Medical School.

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Dr Philippa Vincent is an NHS GP working in North London.

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