Avoiding School and Social Isolation

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This session deals with school refusal and avoidance, as well as social isolation and withdrawal. It will help you recognise and understand the anxiety difficulties that make it difficult for a child or young person to get into school or cope with social settings.

  • Worrying is normal.
  • Young people may be embarrassed to say that they are worried or to describe what makes them anxious, so it is important to ask.
  • Anxiety is just one of many reasons why young people may avoid school or social situations.
  • It is best to catch problems early as they are much easier to solve than problems that have had time to grow, and the teen has become an out of school child.
  • Talk to the young person about their worries to find out what is concerning them and to rule out any other problems.
  • Do not make light of worries - while they may not seem very important to you, they may be very upsetting for the young person, teenager.
  • It can be helpful to break problems down into small pieces (like in a hierarchy) and to motivate the young person by rewarding their efforts.
  • There are lots of good self-help books and websites available (see resources section).
  • Encourage the young person to face their fears.
  • If you are worried about the young person's safety then you must do something about it.
  • Do not be afraid to ask questions about why they are worrying or their anxiety - you will not make the young person more anxious by doing this.

Access the full MindEd session here.
Content provided by MindEd. Author: Denise Bevan. Published: March 2014. Review: March 2017.

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