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TikTok’s ‘nonnamaxxing’ trend explained: here’s how living like an Italian grandma can benefit health and wellbeing

The key to better wellbeing is acting like an Italian grandmother, according to social media’s “nonnamaxxing” trend.

Proponents of the trend say that adopting the lifestyle habits of an Italian nonna will help improve your health and mental wellbeing. The core principles of the trend are simple: make time for your friends and loved ones, eat foods grown from your own garden and cook hearty meals at home.

This latest trend borrows from lifestyle medicine research which shows the same practices being advocated by nonnamaxxing enthusiasts can not only add years to your life, but add life to your years.

So instead of jumping on the nonnamaxxing bandwagon until the next trend rolls around, here are some examples of how you can adopt these habits for life.

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Positive social connections

A core tenet of “nonnamaxxing” is making time for friends and loved ones.

Research shows maintaining positive social connections is one of the most helpful factors in supporting health across your lifespan. Social experiences help us regulate emotionally. Not only does this impact our happiness and wellbeing, it also has a whole host of other physiological benefits.

For instance, laughing with our loved ones or holding their hand reduces pain and dampens the stress response. Research also shows social connection can reduce inflammation and improve immune responses.

This doesn’t mean you need to rush out and get married – it’s not just about romantic relationships. Relationships come in many forms. Even micro-moments of positive social interaction – such as having a brief chat with a barista – have measurable health and wellbeing benefits. Research has also found that people who volunteer have a lower risk of catching the common cold.

Collective experiences such as concerts, rituals, dancing, singing or cheering together can also generate “collective effervescence” – a feeling of unity, aliveness and belonging.

When we interact in person, our brains and bodies synchronise with that person in a way that feels good, supports connection and supports health. We feel a greater sense of purpose, belonging and self-worth.

Physical activity and moving every day are among key factors that have been linked with longevity.

But this doesn’t mean you need to hit the gym or go running to see benefits. Even gardening, an activity we might typically associated with an Italian nonna’s lifestyle, has been associated with health benefits.

Gardening is a physically stimulating activity that translates into increased mobility and reduced sedentary behaviour. Reviews also show it’s good for mental health and quality of life.

Due to its multimodal nature, gardening stimulates the brain. We need to plan, coordinate, remember to remember and monitor changes in our garden over time. This type of stimulation supports the development of cognitive reserve – additional healthy brain tissue that helps offset the functional impairments of diseased brain matter as we age. This may explain why activities such as gardening are associated with lower likelihood of being diagnosed with dementia.

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Another core tenet of nonnamaxxing is cooking meals at home.

The more frequently you cook at home, the better. Those who cook their own meals tend to have a higher intake of fruit, vegetables and fiber. Cooking at home also means you tend to consume fewer calories, fats and added sugar, which may help regulate blood sugar, reduce body fat and prevent type 2 diabetes.

In the field of positive psychology, cooking is described as an activity that captures key parts of what makes us happy – such as positive emotions and a sense of meaning and accomplishment.

If you’re keen to give nonnamaxxing a try, here are a few easy ways to be more like an Italian nonna in your everyday life.

We all know by now that socialising and meeting friends and family is good for us, but if you can’t get together in person make use of technology.

Although technology isn’t quite as good as real-life interactions, try making these interactions intentional when they do happen. Being emotionally responsive, engaged and letting your loved one know you’re there – even while texting – can increase connection and warmth.

And when contacting friends or family, try to call – or at least send a voice message. Social interactions using our voices create stronger social connection compared to text-based interactions.

To give gardening a try, start with something small that grows easily. Even if it’s just a small tomato or strawberry plant you can put on your windowsill. This will give you a sense of purpose, and you’ll be able to enjoy the fruits of your labour, too, which is good for your health.

If you don’t want the responsibility of a garden, getting outside and being in nature – especially in parks or near rivers – will boost both physical activity levels and improve health and wellbeing00025-6/fulltext).

As for cooking your meals at home, don’t feel like you need to start with a complicated recipe. Start with making sandwiches or even snacks and build up to cooking a dinner. Remember, cooking is a skill; you can learn by following a recipe or cooking video.

If you don’t have the time to cook, try eating with someone. Eating together boosts social connection and provides a sense of safety and belonging. If you don’t have anyone to eat with, try picking a food or meal that reminds you of a loved one. This food nostalgia can reproduce feelings of warmth and connection.

While the nonnamaxxing trend may be forgotten in a week, it describes a way of living that’s generations old. Living like an Italian grandma hasn’t just passed the test of time, it’s been tested by health and wellbeing researchers too.

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

Frequently asked questions

What specifically are the health benefits of maintaining positive social connections?

Maintaining positive social connections helps regulate emotions, impacts happiness and wellbeing, and offers physiological benefits. For example, laughter and physical touch can reduce pain and dampen the stress response. Social connection can also reduce inflammation and improve immune responses.

Does socialising have to involve romantic relationships or large groups?

No, it's not just about romantic relationships. Relationships come in many forms, and even brief, positive social interactions, such as a quick chat with a barista, have measurable health benefits. Collective experiences like concerts or group activities can also create feelings of unity and belonging.

How does gardening benefit my brain health?

Gardening is a multimodal activity that stimulates the brain by requiring planning, coordination, memory, and monitoring changes. This stimulation supports the development of cognitive reserve, which is healthy brain tissue that can help offset the functional impairments of diseased brain matter as we age. This may contribute to a lower likelihood of dementia.

What kind of gardening should I start with if I'm new to it?

If you're new to gardening, start small with something easy to grow, like a tomato or strawberry plant on your windowsill. This can give you a sense of purpose and allow you to enjoy the fruits of your labour, which is good for your health.

Are there benefits to cooking at home besides better nutrition?

Yes, beyond nutritional benefits like higher intake of fruits, vegetables, and fibre, and reduced calories, fats, and added sugar, cooking is an activity that contributes to happiness. It fosters positive emotions and provides a sense of meaning and accomplishment, according to positive psychology.

If I can't cook a full meal, how can I still get the benefits of home cooking?

You don't need to start with complicated recipes. You can begin by making simple things like sandwiches or snacks and gradually build up to cooking dinner. Cooking is a skill that can be learned from recipes or videos. If time is an issue, simply eating with someone boosts social connection and provides a sense of safety and belonging. If you're alone, eating a meal that reminds you of a loved one can evoke feelings of warmth and connection.

How can I make my remote interactions with loved ones more beneficial if I can't see them in person?

While not as good as real-life interactions, you can make remote interactions more beneficial by being intentional. Be emotionally responsive and engaged, and let your loved one know you're there for them, even when texting. For stronger social connection, try to call or send a voice message, as they are more effective than text-based interactions.

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Trudy Meehan

RCSI University of Medicine and Health Sciences

Dr Trudy Meehan Chartered Clinical Psychologist registered with the Psychological Society of Ireland. She is a Lecturer at the Centre for Positive Psychology and Health at RCSI University of Medicine and Health Sciences. Her teaching, research and practice is community engaged and her research examines the value of art practice and play.

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